您 can do the same for 您rself as well, but the best 礼品 s may not be something 您 receive, but rather something 您 give away.
Here are FOUR things that 您 might want to let go of this 假日 season. If 您 do, it’ll add to 您r joy and happiness. 🙂
People are guaranteed to annoy, upset, or bother 您. It’s likely because of something they do or 说that 您 think at some level is “wrong”. Let go of that need and watch 您r happiness expand.
Love them before anything else. And then love them again and again. And then they’ll 说something else that annoys 您, and then love them even more..
It comes from a beautiful, loving, empathetic place, but it doesn’t help anyone. This does not mean 您 can’t care, educate, inspire, or otherwise look to move the people 您 love from where they are to where 您 can imagine them being.
但这就是区别。首先想象他们的伟大，不要’t look at everything that’s wrong and try to 固定 them. (I mean, has that strategy EVER worked…)
Imagine those 您 love as 您 know they can be. Imagine their greatness, their healing, their peace. Watch them transform and perhaps most importantly, watch 您r relationship with them transform..
Just as we try to 固定 others, we believe that as we strive for “perfection” we will “fix” ourselves. First off, 您’re never going to be perfect. 那’s guaranteed.
Second, there’s nothing to 固定. 您 are exactly where 您 are supposed to be and 您r striving for more, for a better version of 您rself, is how it will always be. The striving is good. The beating 您rself up is not.
您 are going to do or not do, 说or not 说something, and 您’re going to hear 您r brain beating 您 up a bit…
At that moment, that’s when 您 have to love 您rself just like 您 love those people that annoy 您.
我知道，这是一个正在运行的主题–整个洛塔爱的事情– but it works!
Try it and tell me otherwise. So love 您rself and remind 您rself, “Hey, 您’re doing the best 您 can, a little slack and a little love please!”.
OLD is the operative word here. Chances are 您’ve been carrying this and other negative emotions around for a long time. Chances are also that 您’ve buried them deep because guess what, they’re not fun to feel. I get that.
We often run too fast to feel anything. And we think we’re too busy to do anything about these old emotions. But guess what, they’re the ones actually running the show and draining 您 of 您r life force.
Truly, every negative emotion or event that is still active, that still has a “charge” is sapping 您r mental, physical, and spiritual energy. Pay attention to where these emotions might be lurking, coax them out, and then let them go.
And do 您 know the most magical moment that 您 can create during this 假日 season?
Do 您 know the moment in time that I want 您 to look out for?
The place where, if 您 pay close enough attention to 您rself and to what is happening around 您, everything can change.
It’s when 您 find 您rself feeling “right” and angry, annoyed, or indignant. And when 您 notice 您’re trying to “fix” things and 您 can’t stop seeing everything 您 wish would change…
It’s when 您’re beating up 您rself for not being perfect, and then beating up 您rself more because I told 您 not to…
It’s when 您’re starting to feel old fear, guilt, shame, anger, sadness, or pain…
那 moment in time when 您 notice what is happening… and 您 PAUSE.
And 您 tap. Or 您 breathe. Or 您 just silently 说to 您rself,